|Henry & Dianne Ford
"Seeing the world not as it is, but as it can be"
"Where there is no vision, the people perish." - Proverbs 29:18
Your Success Newsletter - May-June, 2007 - Published Bi-Monthly
Being a Mother
An Internet Message Worth Reading
Passed Along to us by Arthur Hunt
After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner
and a movie. She said, "I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would
love to spend some time with you."
The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a
widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it
possible to visit her only occasionally.
That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. "What's wrong, are
you well," she asked?
My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise
invitation is a sign of bad news.
"I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you," I responded. "Just
the two of us."
She thought about it for a moment, and then said, "I would like that very much."
That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I
arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date.
She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing
the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary.
She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's. "I told my friends that I was
going to go out with my son, and they were impressed," she said, as she got into the
car. "They can't wait to hear about our meeting."
We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My
mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read
the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted
my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips.
"It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she said. "Then
it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded.
During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation- -nothing extraordinary but
catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed
As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you
let me invite you." I agreed.
"How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when I got home. "Very nice. Much more
so than I could have imagined," I answered.
A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly
that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her.
Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the
same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: "I paid this bill in
advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates -
one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant
for me. I love you, son."
At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: "I LOVE YOU" and to
give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than
your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put
off till "some other time."
Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you've had a
baby.... somebody doesn't know that once you're a mother, "normal" is history.
Somebody said you learn how to be a mother by instinct .... somebody never took a
Somebody said being a mother is boring ....somebody never rode in a car driven by
a teenager with a driver's permit. Somebody said if you're a "good" mother, your
child will "turn out good"....somebody thinks a child comes with directions and a
Somebody said "good" mothers never raise their voices .... somebody never came
out the back door just in time to see her child hit a golf ball through the neighbor's
Somebody said you don't need an education to be a mother.... somebody never
helped a fourth grader with his math.
Somebody said you can't love the second child as much as you love the first is
somebody doesn't have two children.
Somebody said a mother can find all the answers to her child-rearing questions in
the books....somebody never had a child stuff beans up his nose or in his ears.
Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery....somebody
never watched her "baby" get on the bus for the first day of kindergarten .... or on a
plane headed for military "boot camp."
Somebody said a mother can do her job with her eyes closed and one hand tied
behind her back ...somebody never organized seven giggling Brownies to sell
Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after her child gets married....somebody
doesn't know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a mother's
Somebody said a mother's job is done when her last child leaves home....somebody
never had grandchildren.
Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don't need to tell her....
somebody isn't a mother.
Pass this along to all the "mothers" in your life and to everyone who ever had a
mother. This isn't just about being a mother; it's about appreciating the people in
your life while you have them....no matter who that person is.
"People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will
never forget how you made them feel."